Owner of Filipina Dating Site Akojo Responds to Accusations
Posted on March 26, 2008
Filed Under Long Distance Relationships, Commentary |
Hello, thank you for publishing my comment.
Re: “I don’t run a matchmaking / dating site as you mentioned in your comments” You may have misunderstood me, or I may have been unclear, sorry.
The last part of my comment was a quote from a comment (number 16) by noemi at http://filipinaimages.com
filipinaimages.com is a site that has chosen to censor my comments, along with intellectualwank.laurganism
So I raised some questions about the Filipina Womens Network selling seats to documentaries about Filipina puki at fifteen hundred dollars a seat, now that is some serious capitalisation of Filipina, a highly profitable commodity, so it seems.
Anyway I won’t bore you with endless repetition, the final word from filipinaimages.com was ‘Go publish it on your own website’, which I did; if you are inclined you can read it here (http://www.akojo.com/Filipina
We developed our site for one reason and one reason only; we were constantly approached, daily in the streets and in the markets, by Filipina asking assistance to find a foreigner. We are regularly handed envelopes with contact information and a photo, Filipina women asking ‘get me one’.
I am brought low and humbled on a daily basis at the need, the poverty, the hardship and the standard of life, which these beautiful people endure. My heart breaks when I drive from manila airport and see the great ‘squatters wall’ constructed by the manila council as an ‘urban beautification project’, to hide from the public view, the image of squatters living in abhorrent poverty, housed in plywood packing crates with tarpaulins for a roof. While on the other side of the highway, million dollar mansions belonging to the affluent. The FilipinaImages campaign is another ’squatters wall’ another ‘urban beautification project’ that seeks only to improve the image of the affluent Filipina, mainly in the USA, it is out of touch with reality and where the rubber hits the road, it lacks credence and has now moved from being a guardian of the truth, to suppressor of the truth, for where censorship exists, there propaganda is fostered.
Alan
From the publisher:
I chose to publish this “comment” as an article simply because I feel it’s written in good taste and worthy of attention even if I don’t agree with some of it.I”m sure the Author will attest to the fact that I haven’t censored not one word of it. It’s been posted in it’s entirety.
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Alan, I visited your website. I have to say, this topic is very difficult to be either 100% for or against. My main issue with Asian dating sites is the type of men that frequent these sites, and the unsuspecting women who sometimes are not experienced in dealing with these men. Do you have in place any way that members can report abusive members? Do you advise joining members what they may expect or encounter as members? I think if you take on the job of trying to match up women, you take on the responsibility to monitor and assist those same women. Would you in real life, match up a filipina with a liar, drunk, or abuser? I would hope the answer is “no”, so then why would you allow it to happen “electronically”? My filipina nieces have been victims of many lowlifes: Guys who have told them they are going to visit, and then never show up as promised; to the very nasty comments; and the guys just looking for some free cyber sex. They have yet to meet anyone they would consider as a husband. I know that maybe you feel you are doing a service, but with the explosion of the lowlifes prowling the internet, I feel that you have a responsibility to at least monitor your members. As for me, if I knew I even matched up one filipina to an abuser or worse, I could never forgive myself…… how about you?
More Timmy boys? :~)
The term ‘Types of men’ is a broad statement, a generalisation, similar to that used by the FWN in the opening lines of their decree nisi, on reshaping the image of Filipina women online. We get all types of men Lloyd, even you paid us a visit, there are some lurkers, usually identifiable by the fact that they don’t upload a photo or provide any personal description, the nature of the beast. Akojo is a meeting place, we do not act as chaperone or a matchmaker, and we neither push people together, nor pry them apart. It is a place where consenting adults can communicate with each other, without giving their personal contact details until such time that they feel comfortable with the person they are sharing with.
We am currently in the process of creating a net safety guidelines page, a decision we came to when we opened the messaging without restraint or censorship. There are currently two methods of reporting abusive members; they can contact support by using the support link, visible twice on every page, or by messaging Ate_Nimda our administrative web presence on the site. We also have a few moderators, who have the means to remove unsavoury images or posts and bounce undesirable characters if the need arises.
This is real life Lloyd, it’s as real as a letter written, as real as phone call to a friend, as real as an email from a brother, messaging and communication are real, electronic or otherwise. I am sorry to hear about the misfortune of your nieces, it’s sad when men play games with the hearts of sincere women or vice versa, a friend of ours recently had a similar disappointment, it hurts. Many of our members surmise their profiles with the words ‘Please… no games!’
I have a lot to say about abuse Lloyd, both female and male abusers; co-dependency is a complex dynamic, clearly illustrated in the Stockholm syndrome; victims often develop affection for their captors! Domestic violence and abuse is not limited to any gender, ethnicity, and social class or as you put it ‘Type of men’. I don’t wish that any person anywhere be trapped in an abusive relationship, but I don’t give up on love, I don’t abandon all hope of a meaningful relationship, I don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. Your nieces are lucky to have your guidance and support; many do this alone, but continue and try again, because they do not want to be alone anymore.
If any of my members find themselves in an abusive relationship in the future, of course that will sadden me. I don’t think that many people find true love at first attempt, we all get hurt, we all pick ourselves up, we cry, we wonder why, some turn their scars into stars, some become bitter, cynical and resentful, but we all learn; and some of us pick ourselves up and try again, because love is the ultimate goal my friend.
Thank you for your comments.
Alan
Alan
I went and read your statements here:
http://www.akojo.com/Filipina_Womens_Network.aspx
I don’t quite understand what you mean with this: “assist Filipina in realising their full potential by meeting a foreign man who may rescue them from the current socio-economic climate in the Philippines”
Rescue?
Meeting their full potential by meeting a foreign man?
What do you mean by this?
I did not “rescue” my wife, and I am probably right that most men would not think that they rescued their filipina wife.
My wife did not need me, to be who she is. She is her own woman, and is more than capable of reaching her full potential without my help.
Further more, this comment really puzzles me:
“She sucks the brains out of prawns, eats with her fingers, pees on the floor and bathes in a bucket, but still comes up looking like a princess most every day and I love her.”
Why in heavens name, would you feel the need to publish that?
Alan, I think we all know where you are coming from now. No further words from you will convince me otherwise, just what kind of person you are, and how you think.
Alan
I am far from being a prude, but these are photos on your website. Its from the “Top 10 Filipina” box.
I don’t think posing this way would attract a more suitable mate, but it does increase your traffic.
http://www.akojo.com/Profiles/gallery.aspx?n=lover_beuaty&ID=4931&Album=Default
http://www.akojo.com/Profiles/gallery.aspx?n=sexy_lady23&ID=3985&Album=Default
http://www.akojo.com/Profiles/gallery.aspx?n=ging24&ID=4092&Album=Default
Hi Lloyd, thanks for visiting AkoJo again, and appreciate your feedback too.
AkoJo - sexy_lady23 has nice legs, I didn’t see anything wrong with the pic when I approved it. The image portrays a scene you could see in any office or workplace; that is unless the employer is sexist who discriminates against women in the workplace; a man can come to work in shorts, why not a woman in a short skirt?
AkoJo - ging24 is a ‘hot Filipina mom’, her words, not mine. Again I didn’t see anything wrong with the image she uploaded, she says in her profile that she loves the beach, she is wearing a bikini top and jeans, a acceptable image, one might see at any beach.
AkoJo - lover_beuaty’s photo gallery, contains a couple of tastefully done images of her in attractive nighttime attire, I didn’t see any ‘Naughty bits’, perhaps not the apparall one would wear to church on Sunday, but then again, shes not in church, she’s in a photo gallery in a Pinoy dating site.
Lloyd, what is a suitable man for a young Filipina woman? I’m interested in your perception of a suitor.
I never said you were a prude Lloyd, but thanks for the revelation.
Alan
Hi Lloyd,
re: your questions about my use of the word ‘rescue’ and ‘Meeting their full potential by meeting a foreign man’…
The point is the socia-economic climate in the Philippines. We have many members who are highly skilled at AkoJo, we have professors, lecturers, scientists, government officials, educators, principals, teachers, dentists, nurses, mid-wives and the list goes on.
Let me ask you a question Lloyd? Why do Filipina women who are highly educated, having prestigious occupations, occupying senior roles in the community, seek a relationship with a foreign man? I’m sure I don’t know and don’t profess to know either, but they are welcome members of my dating site. My thoughts, but not my conclusions on the question are these: Maybe they actually find caucasian men very attractive, maybe they feel that if they find real true love with a foreign man, they can migrate to a country where they can earn ten-fold, twenty-fold, even thirty-fold what they are earning now, if gainfully employed in the same area of expertise. That would amount to ‘Escaping the socio-economic climate in the Philippines’ and migrating to a country which offers more potential and greater renumeration, recognition and reward for their achievement.
Maybe? What do you think Lloyd?
Alan
ps… I’m glad you know where I’m coming from, because I sure as hell don’t know where you are coming from my friend, but I do welcome your comments. I’ll elaborate on ’sucking the brains out of prawns and peeing on the floor’ a little later, when I have the time. Gotta go, theres a dead rat somewhere in the open drainage that runs under our concrete kitchen bench, gotta find it and remove it.
ALAN,
So you verify each and every occupation and education as to the truthfulness of what your members submit. Interesting. Please explain how you do that, since YOU made the claim that that is what they are.
Alan, your tactics in response shows your pompous attitude towards anybody that may think differently than you.
BTW, I am NOT your friend. Somehow you think you are above everyone. I pity you.
Dear Mr Lloyd Sir,
This thread seems to have deteriorated off topic, into a personal analysis of my own character. I have been attempting to be transparent in my responses, answering your enquiries politely, honestly and to the best of my ability.
Re: ‘So you verify each and every occupation and education as to the truthfulness of what your members submit’
No Sir, I actually just believe what they write in their profiles, I have no reason to doubt it; do you think Filipina women are untruthful Lloyd? That would not Create a Healthy Filipina Image, you should really try to have a little more faith Sir. Heres a better idea, why don’t you sign up, send them a message and ask them yourself.
Thank you for the pity, greatly appreciated; my errrmmmm, errrr, hmmmm, Mr Lloyd Sir.
Ingat lang…
Alan
ps… Do you think it would be ok if got back on topic [Filipina Dating Sites - Do They Create a Healthy Filipina Image?]
Don,
thank you for the opportunity to voice my opinion on your site. I do verify that you quoted my comments ‘word for word’, thank you.
My original question, the one that got censored, not by you Don, but by filipinaimages.com was really a simple question; but my question has been bounced around from blog, to post, to special post and back again. Seems it’s a hot potato, that nobody wants to hold. So let me ask it again plainly here.
Why is the Filipina Womens Network selling documentaries about Filipina Puki (Vagina, Pussy) at $1,500 per seat?
And what is the documentary about?
And what has become of the money they have earned?
Their protaganists point the finger of accusation at the likes of me, saying we are meat vendors and we are capitalising on Filipina women, yet we don’t charge a cent.
I suggested the Filipina Womens Network and their protaganist were hypocrites and my comments were censored.
That was my question Don; simple! It was my question to filipinaimages.com and it is my question here too.
Sincerely
Alan
Don, thank you for allowing my voice to be heard, I do verify that you published my comments ‘word for word’, thank you.
I have been tracking back, trying to work out how I got here to this thread, answering each and every inquisition about my personal character and motives, voluntarily placing myself and my site under the microscope of public scrutiny, for all and sundry to interrogate.
I remember the question now, it was a simple multiple part question about the Filipina Womens Network, to one of their protagonists.
Why do the Filipina Womens network accuse the likes of me of being meat vendors, capitalising on Filipina women, when they are the ones selling documentaries about Filipina Puki at $1,500 USD per seat? We by comparison sell membership services at $0.00c.
The second part of my simple multi-part question was; what has become of the money the Filipina Womens Network has gained through the commercialisation of Filipina women online? It’s a non-profit organisation, therefore tax exempt, therefore subject to public accountability.
The third part of my simple multi-part question was; why is the documentary ‘Usaping Puki’ not available for viewing in the Philippines, what is it about that makes it so commercial and will it be made available here?
I’m looking for answers, not questions.
Alan
You should do more research . Educate yourself.
Here is one of them.
http://filipinaimages.com/presenting-the-2008-filipina-womens-networks-vagina-warrior-awards/
Then read up on their projects.
http://ffwn.org/
So what do I find in my mailbox from Akojo’s dating website, the one that claims that he has “real people” on it. Read Akojo’s reply from Mar 28 on this topic.
Now take a look at this profile from his website:
http://www.akojo.com/Profiles/ViewProfile.aspx?n=Hotyelina
That must be a twin of the famous porn star Luana Lani.
The Akojo “dating” website is like all the others, a magnet for deception and abuse by all.
Thank you sir!
After a quick search of image archives for Luana Lani I was able to confirm your finding.
Consequently, on the grounds of impersonation appropriate action has been taken.
sincerely
the akojo support team