A Filipina humiliated: A story of sex, deception and abuse
Posted on September 30, 2007
Filed Under Ang Basura, Fight Human Trafficking, Long Distance Relationships, Commentary |
An Arizona man recently gave his fiancee, a Filipina, here on a Fiancee visa, an ultimatum.
“Give me sex or I won’t let you go home”
He has admitted this in the Bahay Ng Ningas forum just a few days ago. In his words “she owed” him for all the money he spent on her.
Apparently the young lady realized, just in time, that the man she had known as Kevin for 5 years on the Internet was not the man she thought he was and asked that he let her go back home to the Philippines.
His response, in his own words, were was to ask her family to send her the ticket. Basically find the money yourself !
5000 reasons to rape a Filipina
Ultimately Kevin tallied up all the money he had spent on their relationship,about $5000, and felt he deserved her sexual favors as repayment.
That’s when he gave the ultimatum “give me sex or you don’t go home”
Then and only then would he spring for her return ticket.
What kind of man would do this?
Imagine yourself being in her position
- In a new strange country 10,000 mile from home
- With a young daughter
- with no money
- And a “monster” demanding sex for your ticket to safety.
- Imagine, if you can, what it would feel like to be reduced to a sex slave and belittled by the man that you loved and believed in for 5 years. A man that you thought loved you too.
Would you want your daughter…niece….sister….or granddaughter to have to make this decision?
What would you do in this situation?
Stories like this should be public knowledge to protect other Filipinas from making that same mistake. This should be a warning to all Filipinas wishing to marry a foreigner.
Do not ignore the CFO “horror” stories
While there are many good men out available Where there’s smoke there’s fire and for every story you hear of…there’s hundreds just like them that you never hear of.
Some folks say she should report him to US Immigration or the CFO in the Philippines. It’s totally up to her. She might just be too embarrassed or ashamed to speak about it.
I, personally would hope not, but I would understand if she was. It’s up to her one thing is for certain. Steps should be taken to stop him from doing this again.
She did finally post in The World of Filipinas that she is home safely. She wasn’t free to leave of course. So she took the only option she had. She was basically held hostage.
Her choices?
Give your body and dignity or you can’t go home to the safety of your family… loved ones… and friends.
She was brave enough to speak out against this man in the WOF forum and her bravery proves one thing.
He took what he wanted but he:
- He did not take her dignity
- He could not have her soul
- He will not kill her spirit.
I say…God bless her!
One last comment
This man attempted to ridiculed me and the Filipino people on BNN for writing this blog. His nickname for me is “The Great White Filipino.”
I am neither embarrassed or angered. I have no reason to be.
I find it an honor to write this blog and today it humbles me to serve Filipinas and the Filipino people all over the world by exposing “Ang Basura.”
This story is not over yet…for updates be sure to subscribe by email or RSS in the top right hand corner of your screen.
Don’t take my word for what I’m telling you today. Decide for yourself. You can read of this mans behavior in the following forums:
The World of Filipinas - “I want to go home” and “Response to I want to go home”
The World of Filipinas after Dark - ” Ass Cactus”
Bahay Ng Ningas- “Does someone sound upset to you?”
Sincerely,
Don
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ugh this is awful. It’s good to post this so it can serve as a warning that this could happen. I am sure not all of them are like that.
I have followed the story to some extent. Is she really a victim?
From the woman’s own words there were plenty of warning signs that she chose to ignore. Why? Only she can answer, but maybe she had a motive, “I want to give my daughter a good future”.
She tells how she disliked him on their first meeting, and even had second thoughts about going through with the embassy interview.
She then claims she loved him, “I decided to be with him coz I love him”. That could be true, if she felt that maybe things would change, and that in time she would learn to love him. Once again, only she knows.
I have to agree that Kevin is definately the lowest form of life. From the bits and pieces that he posts, it doesn’t take long to figure out that he is truly a piece of crap. He puts a dollar value to everything he does, and the balance sheet better tally up equal on both sides. Thats says volumes!
Nothing comes from his heart, its ALL business to him.
So back to the question, was she a victim?
I would say yes. The deciding factor was the price she had to pay for her return ticket home. She had the instincts to know that to go forward with a marriage to this low-life would only bring more misery to her life. I think it took great courage on her part, to ask that the relationship end, and she be allowed to return back to the Philippines.
I really feel sad for her that her last memory of this creep is him having sex with her in payment for 2 tickets back home.
I hope that she is strong enough to learn from this and that her life gets back to normal and that her daughter hasn’t suffered in any way.
For Kevin, all I can say is KARMA.
Lloyd,
I’m sure she is strong enough to get over this. It’s good her family is there for her and supportive.
And Karma would be interesting to hear about. Assuming he has the nerve to post the results in a forum.
Noemi,
You’re right. Not all Americans are like this. But Kevin and others like him are the type of people that CFO warns Filipinas about.
Like Sir Lloyd say’s Karma.
What he deserves is what he will get.
Its true this is a good post. It gives warnings to all filipina out there. I heard a lot like this some are killed by their husbands. Hmm Im glad my hubby is not like that. Hope filipina who want an American hubby realize that not Americans are nice and good people.
Lemme guess…
Fat, old, dorky American loser convinces girl from the provinces that he is some sort of god. Starry-eyed filipina arrives in the States, takes a look around, realizes that fatso isn’t an oil baron or a movie star - just some schmuck in a polyester shirt who spends most of his week with his neck under his boss’s foot. Filipina gets smart, says “send me home.” Fatso still hasn’t figured out what a loser he is.
But we know, don’t we?
@ Pete,
Actually Pete he’s a 45 year old skinny little weasel. Geek would be more like it…
Same concept.
Pete,
your funny but I like the way you think…either way the “Loser” described by both you and I is not a pretty sight right?
Don,
This forum is a bit off-topic for me as I stumbled across it while searching for something else. But it did catch my eye and reminded me of a passing observation I have made.
That is, the approach many have to fil-west relationships is very different than that of other cross-cultural interactions - and that difference is not a healthy one.
In short, it’s been my observation that many, many American men treat the development of a relationship with a filipina much like they were acquiring an exotic pet of some kind. If you look at the “advice” offered in fil-west relationship sites, it often reads more like a “care and feeding manual” for filipinas rather than sound advice for overcoming cultural hurdles. I really haven’t seen other cross-cultural relationships, such as US/Eastern Bloc, etc, approached in that same manner. It seems to be limited to A/PI women, most specifically, pinay.
Nearly as a rule, many of these American guys dehumanize filipinas by placing them up on pedestals - a position from which they can only disappoint. Others, such as this Kevin Klown, go 180° the other way and abuse them. In any case, there almost seems to be some sort of fetish-like quality to many American men’s approach to interacting with filipinas. It ain’t healthy.
I’ve dated a few filipinas in the past. Other than making tampo, they are just like any other woman. Treat them with respect and dignity, they’re reciprocate.
Bottom line is, I think guys like Kevin have a problem with women in general. Because of economic and cultural conditions, filipinas make easy targets for losers like him. A White American woman wouldn’t put up with it for an instant. If he tried that crap with a Black woman…God help him.
How sad story, my heart goes to her.
some Filipina should take extra care to involve most espeacially a foriegn men out there.