The top 10 really simple clues that he’s the wrong man for you.
Posted on June 10, 2007
Filed Under Long Distance Relationships |
After posting Internet dating tips for Filipinas and Part 1 and Part 2 I have heard more and more stories of the mistakes Filipinas are making in their search for a husband.
So I have decided to put together a list of situations that I have heard of in hopes it will prevent you, the Filipina, from making the same mistakes.
1. If he leaves you in the middle of the night and days before your wedding…Leave him alone..don’t try to save face by getting him back. He’s selfish and he isn’t worth your time.
2. If he ask you to accept him even if he doesn’t have any money…do yourself a favor and ask him to define “what having no money” means. If he’s gwapo and working at McDonald’s as a fry cook your going to have problems. He won’t even meet the minimum income requirement for your visa amongst other things.
3. If he ask you to marry him by “proxy”.. DON’T!
If this man is not serious enough to fly to the Philippines.He is not serious at all MOVE ON! Also If he wants to marry you by “proxy” there could be something else wrong…maybe he’s a convicted felon and can’t travel to Philippines. Even if he could you don’t want a convicted felon as a husband do you?
4. When he does comes to visit you and assaults you, pushes you, or shows aggression in any way he is definitely not husband material.My advice in this case is to instruct your meanest relative to teach him a lesson.
5. If he gives you a computer loaded with spyware to track your every conversation and movement online. He’s a control freak…MOVE ON it’s only going to get worse!
6. If he chats with you for several years while he is married before leaving his wife for you…then I say shame on both of you…Dump him anyway he will eventually tire of you and dump you too! Then don’t fall back into this trap again.
7. If he is married and wants to come visit “as friends” tell him simply NO. He does not want to travel all the way to Philippines to make friends with a gwapa Filipina only!
Think!
8. If he tells you that he wants a “traditional biblical” marriage ask him to explain in detail what that means to him. If his explanation sounds anything like you being a slave to him and all his wishes and whims….add him to your ignore list and continue to do that if he contacts you with other YM Id’s.
9. If he tells you he’s coming to visit you and never shows up! This should be a simple one…forget him!
10. If he tells you he wants to visit you and several other girls during his trip to the Philippines…tell him to call you when he decides to visit only you!
I know I’m going to get a lot of flack from guys with ill intentions and others that want to beat the “what if’s” to death. But all of these are situations that I have seen over the past 2 years,and if you’ll allow me to speak frankly, I have heard more stories than this and if I can do something to prevent these stories from happening to anyone I will.
Don
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Hello Don, that is a great tips ! im sure it is a big help for those pinay who’s looking a foreign boyfriend/husband.
im really sorry if i offended you in my post in wof.
Lorin {Lornadoone} my user name.
Lorin,
Thank you it means a lot to me when I hear positive remarks about what I write
As for the comments on WOF ..your apology is accepted. I do realize that you have strong opinions and they are always welcome there. But you have been around these forums long enough to know that some of what you said could ignite a war of words. And as a Mod I can’t allow it…
Don
Well I am glad my now GF didn’t follow Rule Nr 7 and maybe 6.
I did visit her as “friend” the first time and i was married. Well she made it clear there would be no sex and i accepted it. But we couldnt help falling in love.
Then we continued chatting. My marriage (of course) was not a good one any more at that time. And eventaully I seperated from my wife (but not divorced yet).
Well its not years before i left my wife, but likely will be until I get the divorce.
Now i dont want to encourage anyone to get in a situation like this because i can tell you: It’s not fun! It is very hard and stressing for my gf, my wife and me.
All I want to say is, that there are exceptions to every rule and always listen to your brain and your heart before following rules.
btw If had followed all the rules about Pinays I heard i would have had to dump her also.
But the way things look now, we are still very much in love and looking forward to getting married as soon as i get my divorce.