Filipina Chat mates and common sense rules
Posted on April 7, 2006
Filed Under Long Distance Relationships |
As a member of several fil/west forum I hear far to many heartbreaking stories. Many of them are from men with unrealistic expectations about the filipina they are chatting with online.
Usually they expect “exclusivity” from the lady after a few conversations on the net! And worst of all he thinks after sending his new “girlfriend” a few hundred dollars that she is committed to him!
And this couldn’t be further from the truth! In all actuality he is the one committedboth emotionaly/financially , whatever u want to call it. Most men think with their little head and connect both heads to there wallet.
and then the story gets good…
After chatting and sending money and fantasizing about his Asian princess he decides to take a trip to the Philippines but just to assure himself that he is doing the right thing he begins to wonder if he can really trust her.
personally I believe it is too late to start to wonder this.
Then he decides to ask her for her email password as a “show of good faith” And BAM …He learns that she has been chatting with 50 or 60 other men the whole time! And then he cries scammer!
Has he been scammed?
No!
He was a fool…and a fool and his money are soon parted. When do we owe chat mates money? If you have a lady friend at work or a neighbor that is a lady…Let’s say you talk with her everyday. Do you give her money? Do you fall in love with her that easily? Can you see yourself wanting to marry her after a few weeks or months of good conversation.
What I am trying to say here is use the same rules of dating and romance in the real world on the internet. This will serve u well.
And don’t tell me that you aren’t sending any more than you would spend on a date. Because that dog won’t hunt…On a date you get to have real time with her, real conversation, a dinner or movie. Not just a pretty face on on a screen.
And even if we want to buy into that theory, doesn’t the woman you are dating have the right to date others too? Of course she does. Don’t you have a right to date other women too? Yep! And I would bet a dime to a doughnut that she wasn’t the only girl you were chatting with too.
So let’s get real! You weren’t scammed you were foolish with your money and your heart. Most of what u called love was your very own selfish mind games that you played on yourself.
I think I have heard every single excuse in the book for why a man wants to send money to his girlfriend in the Philippines and none of them hold water.
I say if you want to send money and justify it however in your mind then Man up and take responsibility. And if you learn that she is chatting with a other men, well, Look at it like this…You’ve been dating her for a while and now u just saw her out at the disco with another man.
Just like dating!
Tags: Filipina Dating, Long Distance Relationships, Philippines, Fil Am relationships, Fil-West, Filipinas
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Hi, there. Your post is only telling one side. I hope some day you will find one that is really true for you. You know, my spouse and I met over the net in 1998. I saw a post and commented on it. He responded. Just like all the others, I used the cafes for communication or sent him e-mails from my office. Flip side though, my spouse was chatting not only to me but to several girls. I was constantly on his side nevertheless, and became the last man standing. You know, am thankful because money is the least of our worries. We are still together and we love each other. It is year 2006 and counting.
I hope you read this post in the spirit in wich it was written. I am telling the men, specifically, American men. To be realistic.
Of course this is telling only one side. I know and have seen the best of the internet and how it can support a Long distance relationship.
I Hope you or any other filipinas were not offended by this post and I am sure that if you have been in the cafes then I am sure you have seen, first hand, and heard the stories from the Filipina side of the chat conversation.
Sincerely yours
Don–>